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Thursday, June 13, 2013

Quantity of clothes, closets, and needing to clense

National Geographic: Teenagers run and play on
large white sand dunes in New Mexico, 1957.

I've talked about going on a clothing cleanse before - and it was moderately successful. I learned about quality of clothes and how to remove items I wasn't wearing instead of just buying more clothes. I learned to try everything on, and if I don't LOVE it, that I should not bring it home. I learned that if I wouldn't have paid full price for it, that I should not bring it home. This was a valuable foundation to finally learn and grow on. Finally, not being able to use the credit card to purchase clothes has TREMENDOUSLY cut down on buying clothes (especially online).

Over the past year and a half I've been very picky about what clothes I buy - What is its purpose, can I wear it to work, Is having another sundress really worth it when I don't have summers off anymore?

Unfortunately, I still have a lot of clothes. As in:

1) One White Ikea closet that holds 90% of my dresses.
2) One standard dresser that holds my Stockings, Tank Tops, Skirts, Sweaters
3) One Tall dresser that holds my knit/ summer dress, Unisex T's, summer swim and shorts, and PJ's including sweatpants.
4) Built in closet that has my everyday items: button up shirts, pants, jeans, shoes, work out gear, and a million v-neck pocket t's.

Luckily, and maybe the only thing going for me, is that most of the drawers aren't packed or stuffed with clothes - so there's room for condensing.

What I think I would like to do is get a closet organizing system (like ben has!) to utilize 100% of my closet.

This way I might be able to move a lot of my standard dresser items into the closet and move that dresser upstairs. I think I still need to sell or donate about a third of my clothes still, but I think it can be done. Right now our bedroom is just over crowded: three dressers, nightstand, cal king bed, and X-Large dog crate.

What are your spring cleaning ambitions?

Thursday, May 30, 2013

happy marriage / happy kid

I've read a lot of places that when couples have children, they are less happy, less fulfilled, less in love, etc etc. What a downer!

I believe, and am deeply attached to the notion that when I married Ben I was marrying forever. That no matter what happens, I am going to be there for him, and him there for me. It's a growing support network, that changes needs - and we adapt and grow with it. And while there are moments of challenge, there are greater, and more moments of joy and love. It would be a big bummer if we "lost" that when we decide to have children.

To speak honestly, I remember a lot more fighting than hugging between my parents growing up. That's not to say they weren't in love - there was just a lot of tension and choas that got in the way. I learned about love by the way my parents loved me, not so much by watching them love each other.

I was a happy enough child, I played sports, had friends, and got good grades - never excelling in either department (I'd like to think I was just above Average). I was angry, annoyed, and sad during my teens. I mostly blamed it on my middle-child syndrome. But what if (isn't that a dangerous phrase!) there was more love and happy when I was growing up? Would I have been happier, more confident, excelled more? Or maybe I would have been a flake or not determined enough to achieve what I have?

Either way, I've thought endlessly as to what kind of parent I want to be -- The kind of parent that loves my spouse and fills the house with care, respect, and good conversation (all three things I learned from my parents).